Sometimes when you win, you actually lose, and sometimes when you lose, you really win, and sometimes when you win or lose, you actually tie, and sometimes when you tie, you actually win or lose. Winning or losing is all one organic mechanism, from which one extracts what one needs.” 
Gloria Clemente, White Men Can’t Jump


Instead of concerning yourself with the score, be a competitor. Are you trying to be first during the sprints? Beat yourself. Who stays after their workout to practice a few more exercises? Practice for yourself. Who comes early to do mobility or skills? A competitor does not worry about the white board or numbers or posting your PR on social media. A competitor shows up to be the best they can be and their hunger for improvement is never satiated. Be the best you can be...for you!

Try this exercise...write down 10 ways you can personally compete. They must be things only you can control. Then share the list with someone at your box, with a small group of CrossFit friends, or with someone on your team.

If you share them with a group, watch your workout buddies/teammates and take note on which items got the most “head nods” from the others. That is a signal you don’t want to miss, because those are the things athletes know deep down they need to do in order to be great. Compile the list on one sheet of paper. Post that list somewhere you can see it at home, and pick one before every WOD, but to keep it to yourself. It works best if it is right by the door on the way to the box, so you can physically “tap” it to solidify it in your mind.

Think about this during the post WOD or practice chit chat. What did you chose as your personal challenge that day. Were you successful? Did you follow through? This works best if you follow through and ask a few others to be a part of it. Sharing with each other is a terrific way to be accountable and hold others accountable. Be clear, this is not a competition amongst you and your buddies, it's personal. They just help you bounce ideas around and stay clear about your goals.

We work out to stay healthy, fit and strong. But, some people deep inside have that competitive edge, a burning desire. Do you want that fire to break free and be a part of your daily practice? If you allow it to exist, your workouts will show it, your pain threshold will rise and your experience will be enhanced. You don't have to compete to be a competitor; but being a competitor helps you exceed your level of goals and expectations, just for you, all your own.

The more you build yourself to be a competitor the better you will perform in an actual competition. That deep seeded desire will appear when you need it most, if you train it to be there often.

To create a “culture of competitors” you have to be the example of consistency with your message, the one from your inside voice. But, to create a true “competitor” one has to be consistent with oneself!


Carolyn “CJ” Silas

Personal Coach

(805) 295-9151